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I Own The Word Parent!

2010 January 11

Since there are some people believe words can be owned … I am going to claim ownership of the word “Parent” and all iterations of the word (Parents, Parental, Parenting, etc).

Why am I claiming ownership of a word?  Because I’m seeing groups claim they own the word “Marriage” and it’s definition.  Their public statements baffle my mind.

According to these people, Marriage is strictly defined by the Bible as a union of man and woman.  We are living in a world where if a gay or lesbian couple try to get married – someone in an office gets an email alert and they run out to squash any and all usage of the word “marriage” and all iterations of it (married, marry, etc) pertaining to the relationship!  It is just ignorant.  In our country the right to freedom of speech is held dear and this behavior is a slap in the face to free speech.

Now that the religious nut nuts own the word “Marriage” do we need to pay royalty fees?  Do writers need to submit their compositions to the Marriage police to ensure they’ve used the word correctly?

According to – “Marry” (aside from the Man/Woman definition) is also defined as:

to unite intimately … to combine, connect, or join so as to make more efficient, attractive, or profitable … to cause (food, liquor, etc.) to blend with other ingredients

Also the word “Marriage” (aside from the Man/Woman definition) includes definitions like:

any close or intimate association or union … a formal agreement between two companies or enterprises to combine operations, resources, etc., for mutual benefit; merger … a blending or matching of different elements or components

You may be wondering why I’m going on this little tirade.

I ran across a quote from Jenny Tyree (Marriage Analyst for Focus on the Family in Colorado), the quote was in an article about the health care bill and its effect on married couples – but her quote gave me enough motivation to look her up and read other articles she chimed in on.  My hunch was correct – she is ignorant across the board, not just on the government health care issue (I’ll be posting on that next!).

Regarding marriage, Jenny has been quoted saying:

“Maryland’s homosexual ‘marriage’ proponents betray their short-sighted view of marriage with their constant talk of it simply to obtain benefits and recognition,” she said. “They ignore the fact that the heart of marriage — our most pro-child institution — is to help ensure every child has a mom and a dad.”

Excuse me … but doesn’t biology ensure every child has a “Mom and Dad?”  Isn’t marriage about ensuring the children have a stable family and good parents?

I’m also confused about her statement saying homosexual proponents “betray their short-sighted view of marriage … ” Are you KIDDING me Jenny?  So let me get this straight … you and Focus on the Family would rather have a child raised by a Man/Woman combo no matter what?  Please tell me you and Focus on the Family are not THAT “short-sighted.”  Just because a man knocks up a woman and they have a baby does not make them “parents”  If it were up to me … I would put a child with a loving and caring couple – a couple who understands respect, love, compassion, empathy … a couple that will raise the kid to be a benefit to society!  According to your dogma, this is impossible if this is a gay or lesbian couple.  I do not need to go into all the “what if’s” … I know how you skirt those questions.

So – I now own Parent.  The word parent is defined without regard to biology.  Here are my rules for using the word Parent:

  1. Parent is important, therefore it’s always capitalized.  Parents are deciding what our world will be like in 30 years — they deserve a capitalization.
  2. The word Parent has no ties to biology.  Certainly the biological baby mama and baby daddy can be parents, they can also be losers.  Birthing a child and raising a child are totally different.  Men leave women to be single moms, spouses separate and share the parenting duties in individual households, people live as a family and treat each other horribly every day.  Biology does not make a Parent.
  3. Parents are not focused on being their children’s best friend, they are focused on teaching them the foundation they need to be adults such as; boundaries, responsibilities, societal rules, work ethic, love and support

If marriage is about the family and raising children, then you need Parents to make it work.  I’m on a rampage to take back the word marriage, my first step is to claim Parent so they can’t use it in their narrow hate filled ignorant definition.  Using the Bible to preach hate …. somebody ought to be ashamed of themselves.  But that’s another topic for another day.

With that said … I hereby declare I own the word Parent!!!

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A Multiple Choice, Faith Based Life

2010 January 10

Pick 2 out of 3 … this is how I feel sometimes when I discuss religion with others. Their belief in God or whichever “higher power” is defined by what is written in a book … that was written by other humans. Who has it right – Catholics, Jews, Muslims, Christians? Boil it down and all these religions have the same “message” but their delivery is different because of what someone else has written. They all believe there is a God, they all believe there was a Jesus who walked around earth, some believe Jesus was God, some believe he was a prophet, some believe he hung out with other gods … some think he had brothers, some think he had kids … all these beliefs are based on what others have written.

I have been reading up on religion over the past couple weeks and ran across a GREAT chart … The Big Religion Comparison Chart lists 42 belief systems from around the world.  This is in no way an absolute on religion but it is the most comprehensive list I have found.

If you wonder how Islam, Judaism and Christians look at each other – Islam believes Jews and Christians are respected as “People of the Book,” but they have wrong beliefs and only partial revelation.  Jews believe Islam and Christianity are false interpretations and extensions of Judaism.  Christians believe Judaism is a true religion, but with incomplete revelation. Islam is a false religion.  I found this great comparison of Islam, Judaism and Christianity on

Since there are so many differences – and so many cultures in the world, is it possible that there is no “right” religion?  We all believe what we are taught and never as why … why do Christians believe when the Bible says “God created the universe in 7 days” they think it means “7 actual days!”

Bottom line … why put a label on your belief system?  Organized religion has shown us time and time again it teaches fear, submission and you are not good enough without the “leaders.”  After all … why would God tell them how to teach you the proper way to live your life when all through the Bible it teaches you directly how to live?

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Tattoos Are Permanent – Even On Kids!

2010 January 9

This past week I read an article that at first shocked me … then humored me. Patty Jo Marsh and Jacob Bartels are boyfriend/girlfriend. Each has a set of kids from a previous marriage/relationship … a total of 7. The kids age range from 17 to 7. Nothing wrong with this right? Well flash back to a couple days after Thanksgiving and somehow, the topic came up regarding the parents love of tattoos. The kids “decided” they wanted to be like their folks and get tattoos also.

Far be it from Patty Jo and Jacob to sit the kids down and discuss how tattoos are permanent and how they should not be taken lightly. This decision for life is something one should think about before putting needle to skin. Unfortunately – this did not happen. 6 of the 7 kids received small cross type tattoos on the web of their hand. When asked why she tattooed her kids … Patty Jo replied “They asked us to!” – so here is what she and Jacob gave them!

Now – are you ready for what they used to tattoo the kids?

Evidently what Patty Jo and Jacob did not realize is Tattooing your kid is illegal … also, tattooing in the state of Georgia without a license is also illegal.  So, off to jail they went and the kids were temporarily removed from the house but returned when Patty Jo and Jacob posted bail.  This all came to light when one of the 11 year old kids was visiting their biological mom.  The mom asked about the mark and the kid said it was temporary – after not being able to wash it off the bio-mom called the cops to file a complaint.

Like I said at the beginning … at first I was shocked!  How could anyone in their right mind think they were doing something that was OK?  (then I watched the video interview with Patty Jo and I answered my own question).  After the shock of “How could a parent do that” … I realized they were just trying to bond the family.  In their mind they were  bringing the family closer while sharing with their kids what they love – Tattoo’s.  Then I started thinking about other things parents do to their children … I have seen new born girls with pierced ears, did the kid even show an appreciation in ear rings?  What about circumcision for boys – body mutilation at the request of the parents protected by religious beliefs.

I think what Patty Jo and Jacob did was irresponsible and there are consequences to breaking the law (and there is no such thing as the “I didn’t know” defense in my book).  The machine they used looks crazy and unsafe and they will be punished for that too … but for us to judge them on their parenting skills – lets try not to throw those stones too far!

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United States Of Uhh-Merica

2010 January 6
by Bill

Dawn and I watched the movie Idiocracy on accident.  I saw the tagline “The Future Is A No Brainer” and I just had to give it a shot (plus it starred Luke Wilson).  Dawn and I watched this movie in horror and humor.  The title of this post was the working title of the script … the quick run down of the movie is Joe (Luke Wilson) is in the Army and is just the average soldier.  He is used in a “Hibernation” project that was suppose to last only a year, however, Joe wakes up 500 years later to find out he is the smartest person in America.

The movie is an over the top “What If” … but I believe it is closer to a “What Is.”  The movie makes fun of everything from Costco having shuttles to take people around the store, to the TV shows that only show men getting hit in the “soft spot.”  The President of the United states is a wrestler only because he is strong.  If you have not seen this movie – its a must see … funny and horrific at the same time.  Which is why I am writing about it today.

When did we become so scared as a country?  Why are we so reactionary as a country when our enemy (for lack of a better word) is standing right in front of us laughing?  I read a post by Ann Coutler where she states something of interest:

Since Muslims took down Pan Am Flight 103 over Lockerbie, Scotland, in 1988, every attack on a commercial airliner has been committed by foreign-born Muslim men with the same hair color, eye color and skin color. Half of them have been named Mohammed.

Since the year I graduated High School and joined the Navy – 22 years for those playing the home game … our enemy has been the same.  We know who he is … we know many facts about this person.  Why are we not addressing the white elephant in the room (or in this case – the foreign-born Muslim man).  I believe airports should have 2 separate security lines … Muslims in one line, everyone else in another.  Why – because until we as a country show the world we will not stand for intimidation no matter what … we will continue to lose this fight against evil.

I have heard more than once that profiling is not right … however, the FBI profiles criminals, and they do it well.  Why not profile terrorists?  Why not single out those suspicious in airport security, isnt that their job?  The way I see it – as long as we continue creating rules to stop terrorists after they do something … they will always remain one step ahead.

Correct me if I am wrong … they (the terrorists) can blow up planes, churches, markets, or really anything they want, but when one guy draws a comic of Mohammed wearing a bomb as a hat they get offended?  Now, color me confused, but since we now know what pisses them off … why are we NOT using that to our advantage?  Kurt Westergaard – the Danish cartoonist who drew the picture has had his life threatened over that silly picture … he is under police protection because of a cartoon!

We as a country must reinvent who we are – we are ignoring the change going on around us, and that never ends well.  We all know the quote “Never bring a knife to a gun fight” … I think its time for us to change our line of thinking.  It was not that long ago when the early Americans were fighting against the British to protect this new free country.  How did we win, we did not follow the Rules Of War … we did not march shoulder to shoulder into battle … we hid in trees, we ambushed, we divided and conquered.  And We Won!!!

Why are we not doing that now?

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Religiosity – The Quality Of Being Religious

2010 January 2
by Bill

I am not sure this is a real word – however, it is “REAL” in my world … and since you have entered into my world to learn more about me, welcome to my vocabulary.  Allow me to explain!  The suffix “osity” is defined as “The quality of being” … therefore when I append Religious to the front of it I create this new word.

Now for my definition –

The quality of being religious is a power thing … Religiosity allows people to judge others by hiding behind their Bible, Torah or Qur’an.  Instead of living life as an example and being the spiritual leader they were “called” to become, they assume a self appointed position of authority.  Interpreting what they read and instructing people (or their flock, congregation, followers, etc) on how they expect them to behave, what to believe and how to think.  So, the quick and dirty definition of Religiosity would be – The self assumed position of authority where one dictates the thoughts and actions of others without actually being the example.

This is where I find my biggest objection to “organized religion” – the lack of actual leadership in those who are leading.

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Why Billosophy

2010 January 1
by Bill

Billosophy started one fine night over a few glasses of wine in our local wine room / restaurant.  There were about 10 of us hanging out, drinking wine and chatting about life in general when one of my friends started talking about the Ohio serial killer Anthony Sowell and his unfathomable actions towards the humans he murdered.  I found myself thrust into a discussion over God and why he would allow someone like this to live and murder, but 5 year old Noah Biorkman was living his short life with stage IV neuroblastoma (sadly Noah passed away in early November and my thoughts are with his family this year).

My friend (I’ll call her Rachel) would continue asking why would God allow this … why would God do this to his humans.  Interestingly enough, one of the participants in this discussion was the preacher from the local church and before he could give his opinion I jumped in.  God did not “do” this to humans … It is the way humans treat each other.  I shared my thoughts with “Rachel” and the preacher for almost an hour.  Arguing that if God allowed one human to be good, and another to be bad … why is it not possible that each human (you and I) can use our own ability to think, and therefore decide and do whatever we want to do.  Critical thinking gives us humans the edge over all the other animals in the world … if there is a God (according to the Bible) he gave us the ability to think and by giving us that ability, God gave up the ability to control us.  So you cant blame God for the atrocities that humans inflict on each other, in my opinion.

“Billosophy” was the word I used that night when “Rachel” asked me why I didnt go into preaching.  She said “You missed your calling!” and I replied … “I am not quite sure how many people would follow Billosophy.”

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2010 New Year Resolution

2009 December 24
by Bill

Three days and counting – Starting Jan 1, 2010 I will be embarking on a journey into who I am and why I believe what I do.  I will be talking about my observations and opinions on anything that happens during this year.  So far I have had to bite my tongue (well, more like hold back posting) … with Tiger Woods topic and the recent attempt at bombing an airplane – I find it interesting how “News” is reported and also, how people will attach themselves emotionally to a cause that has zero effect on them or their lives.

I am also going to be slowly unwrapping this onion I call Religiosity – what I think about it, what my opinion is about it and why I am so vehemently against the Church and “Organized Religion.”

I am dubbing 2010 – the year of enlightenment and I look forward to everyone’s take on my thoughts and opinions.

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