Perception Is Reality
I had a boss tell me this for 2 years … my first “corporate” job and I had no idea what I was doing. Perception Is Reality! Not a week goes by that I am reminded of this. Perceptions will always vary … you will always get different stories from different people about the same situation. To take that a step further, we as humans assign different meanings to what we perceive. There are usually two options when it comes to perception, depending on the situation someone might change their own perspective or simply make things mean something else … sometimes that happens the more you look at something. There is no fixed meaning to things, sure we have definitions – but isn’t it the exception that usually makes the rule? You can always change perspectives and change meanings depending on the situation you are in and what is on your agenda.
Perception is that word that makes people tons of money … the people that sit in a chair and listen to you talk for 50 mintues, and then bill you for one hour! I am finding more and more young kids try to aspire to meet the image society sets for them. To tall, to short, to skinny, to fat … clothes, language, behaviors, all building blocks of Your Perception! Think about it – how many times have you watched a commercial telling us in order to be happy, all we have to do is follow this program. Why must we be validated by others in order for US to feel better? I continue to tell my boys … figure out what you want and plan that journey. What is happiness to you … is it a car, big house, an RV, a Boat, airplane, own a company, lead a team, be the boss? Once we focus our attention on what our definition of success is … when we can stand up and quantify why we are happy. Perceptions will sometimes become strenght to your armor. Think about it – Most of our lives will be spent in the pursuit of goals, not the attainment. Therefore, it is far more important to enjoy the journey. When living in that mindset, outside perceptions will affect your path in a way that validates your decisions and proves you made the right or wrong ones (if they are wrong – regroup, discuss, fix, move on!). Sometimes they reinforce your motivation and drive to give you that extra push when you need focus.
If you change your story – you change your perception – you change your life!
The Book Of Vision Quest by Steven Foster talks about perceptions:
“You may wonder, ‘How can I leave it all behind if I am just coming back to it? How can I make a new beginning if I simply return to the old?’ The answer lies in the return. You will not come back to the ‘same old thing.’ What you return to has changed because you have changed. Your perceptions will be altered. You will not incorporate into the same body, status, or world you left behind. The river has been flowing while you were gone. Now it does not look like the same river.”
All this boils down to one thing – the ONLY thing you can control in life is how you react to situations. My boys, and sometimes Dawn, will ask me during stressfull times or heated discussions – Why do you seem so calm? More than once their perception of me has been that either I do not care what the topic is – or I am not that interested in it. While I am trying to process the information before I decide on the plan to fix the situation. What controls your perception is your history of decisions and experiences. Its all you got – Use It! My experience has been like none other – I would not ask anyone to take a ride in my shoes. It is all in how you handle reality … how you make your decisions after you process the information (and sometimes before you process – but that is another post).
Where do you find yourself stumbling with perceptions … where do you find yourself excelling? What are key indicators that trigger your perception of things? Volume? Attitude? Clothing? Language?
This could be a fun one to talk about – tell me one thing you would change about your story!